Sunday, December 23, 2018

The Lessons I Learned From "Annie"


I recently had the privilege and the challenge of being a member of the cast of Annie. Live theater is magical. This show was no exception. As many of you know, the Annie story is one of optimism.  It’s upbeat. It’s forward looking.  It’s fun and it delivers a strong message with which people resonate.  As a cast member I not only heard this message but became caught up in helping deliver it.

If you have been a performer in a live production you understand the feeling, the vibe, and the buzz that occurs as a group of near strangers come together, and bond as the chaos of first rehearsal matures and grows into a show. It is a powerful and nearly palpable atmosphere and experience. 

There are always lessons to be learned from any group activity.  The Stage One, Inc.  Annie cast was no exception.  About half the cast were children – mostly young girls around 10 or 12.  After all, the show does feature young girl orphans.  Closing in on 69 myself, I was nearly the eldest actor on the stage.  Of course I was joined by many other adults. These fellow adult cast members were great but it was from the kids that I learned the most.  As I rehearsed and performed with these kids I was stuck by so many things; lessons we adults would do well to emulate.  

First and foremost were energy and engagement.  These kids wanted to rehearse and perform. They were thrilled to be a part of something bigger than themselves. They threw themselves into their characters and created new personalities.  They participated in long rehearsals and repeatedly worked their lines and blocking. I never heard complaints from them.

Next comes common courtesy. These kids proactively and respectfully greeted us old geezers and all cast members. I heard please and thank-you often.  This is so refreshing in today’s world where we are bombarded with disrespect, name calling seems to be accepted, and there is a dearth of courtesy. Cast members never descended to these levels.

This one, coachability, is huge, especially in a play.  A Director’s job is to guide, coach, make suggestions, and correct. It has been my experience in community theater that many adult actors seem to think they know more than the Director.  They bristle against and resist redirection, suggestion and correction resulting in much wasted time for all concerned.  Not these kids. Rather, they appeared pleased to have coaching that would make their performances stronger.  When redirected, their typical reply was, “Thank you”. Then I observed them immediately incorporating those directions into their performances.

Hard work and focus are such a great combination and, boy, did these kids bring this.  They knew their lines early on.  They knew their dance moves. They knew their blocking.  None of this happens without dedication, focus, and plain old effort. 

Adaptability had a great role also.  Theater demands constant adaptability as rehearsal spaces change, musical accompaniment varies, a fellow actor inadvertently jumps several lines, the Director moves in a new creative direction, or your carefully positioned props get moved.  These kids flowed with and even thrived on these challenges.

Annie kids actively practiced support for and affirmation of each other and all cast members.  Many were the high-5’s, the thumbs-up, the nice-jobs that greeted fellow performers as they exited the stage after completing a scene or as they passed each other in the wings.  Often I would hear the concerned query, “How’s it going tonight? Are you doing okay?”  Such caring, such concern.

That’s what happens when we get out of ourselves and participate in something bigger than we are.  Maybe it’s a play, maybe it’s a work group, a church, a community.  It’s that sense of unity and purpose that we are so missing.  And there I was, sitting in the wings at JPAC, being taught these so basic values by kids.

After all - Kids Matter



Monday, March 5, 2018

Getting Along




I don’t know about you, but it seems like everywhere I go I hear people lamenting the lack of civility in the world.  Unfortunately, flagrant examples of adults behaving badly literally assault us daily.  Even more unfortunate, in my mind, is that we experience this negativity, this lack of respect for each other, and basic dearth of common courtesy right here in Milton.  I find it embarrassing and disheartening.

On the other hand, I look at our kids and my spirit soars.  In every one of our school buildings we have a majority of kids behaving in very positive ways that we adults should emulate.  How do I know? Because every day our kids are caught doing things right – caught by their classmates, their teachers and other staff members – and then they are called-out, recognized, and celebrated for the way they go about their day and treat others.

The School District of Milton is clear in its expectations of students.  You will see these words (or variations on them) everywhere throughout the District – RESPONSIBLE / RESPECTFUL / SAFE / & KIND.  Some buildings, like Northside, have additional guides:

S afe                                                             C ooperation
O rganized                                                    P articipation
A ccountable                                                 R espect
R espectful

They are great guidelines but what do the words really mean? How would you articulate the behavior expected by these guidelines for your own everyday life?  Our kids clearly know.  Let me provide some examples.  Recently I had the privilege of attending a Superstar Lunch at Northside. Principals Jon Lyon and Julie Musgrove hold these lunches monthly and separate lunches for each grade level.  As I arrived for the fourth grade lunch I found the Large Group Room filled with students along with parents and grandparents.  Everyone was brimming with pride and anticipation.  Jon and Julie began to introduce the students and showcase the actions – the daily behavior – that brought them honor.  This is what I heard:


  • ·         Works through conflict in a fair & kind way
  • ·         Demonstrates willingness to work with all
  • ·         Works hard at getting along
  • ·         Shows that it’s important to be kind
  • ·         Willing to lend a hand
  • ·         Gets along with everyone
  • ·         Demonstrates good listening
  • ·         Shows a positive attitude
  • ·         Has a kind demeanor
  • ·         Shows respect for others
  • ·         Models kindness
  • ·         Exhibits thoughtfulness
  • ·         Supports classmates
  • ·         Sets an example of how to play fair
  • ·         Is helpful to others
  • ·         Knows how to let others be special
  • ·         Includes everyone
  • ·         Welcomes others with a smile
  • ·         Shows a getting-along attitude
  • ·         Is accepting of others
  • ·         Makes others comfortable
  • ·         Will help anyone
  • ·         Makes a friend’s day better
  • ·         Excels in the way she treats others
  • ·         Works in a kind & helpful manner
  • ·         Is kind & respectful of everyone
  • ·         Shows a smile
  • ·         Knows how to SOAR
  • ·         Lives the Golden Rule Daily

WOW!  And this from 10 year olds.  I was and am impressed; impressed by this positive behavior and further impressed that similar recognition ceremonies are duplicated at all grade levels across our School District.  It’s fun.  It’s uplifting.  It’s inspiring.  It is truly a “feel good” experience.  It is wonderful.


I am so glad I was able to participate but it created this question for me.  Where is the disconnect between the students of Milton and the adults of Milton?  The gulf seems deep and wide.  Let’s take a lesson from our kids.  While we may not agree, let’s be responsible, respectful, safe, and kind with each other.  Let’s SOAR in our homes and our community.

Let’s pledge together to rise above this miasma of local divisiveness and rancor.  Let’s allow our kids to teach us how to truly live and treat each other.

After all – KIDS MATTER – and so does our community.


Jon Cruzan
Community Catalyst
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